What should I do about my wife's family rejecting our marriage and severing communication between me and her, and would I be sinful if I supplicated and awaited her return while failing to fulfill her rights?
An oral marriage is valid if it fulfills its pillars and conditions. Its documentation is for the preservation of rights and is not a condition for its validity. Even if the marriage is invalid due to the loss of a condition, such as a guardian, the wife does not exit from it except by divorce.
As soon as the contract is made, the woman becomes a wife, and it is forbidden for her to leave her husband's house except with his permission, even to visit her family. Otherwise, she would be disobedient to her Lord and her husband.
It is not permissible for a woman to request a divorce except for a legitimate reason. Otherwise, she exposes herself to severe warnings; for "any woman who asks her husband for a divorce without a valid reason, the scent of Paradise will be forbidden to her." If she marries another before her divorce, this would be forbidden adultery.
It is advised to involve her family, neighbors, friends, or the imam of the mosque to warn them against this evil and remind them of the husband's right, and to remove the misconception that this is an existing marriage from which the woman does not exit except by divorce. There is no sin on the husband for not giving her her rights, such as maintenance and the like, because a disobedient wife is not entitled to maintenance. If the wife and her family insist on their stance, it is advised to separate from her.
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