Does the questioner sin by cutting off ties with her friends, some of whom she found to be harmful? And does the Hadith "The deeds of those who harbor animosity towards each other are not raised" apply to her, despite her desire for a normal relationship, not a friendship, and with her intention to greet them if she meets them? And does she sin by cutting off ties with everyone, including those who did not harm her? And is she obliged to apologize a second time, or return to the group, or continue private communication?
The rights of friendship between Muslim women are part of the general rights of brotherhood/sisterhood among Muslims. It is not permissible to abandon/boycott for more than three (days/nights) except with a legitimate reason, such as harm. Patience in the face of harm is better. It is not permissible to abandon/boycott the rest of one's friends because of harm caused by some of them, for "every soul is a hostage for what it has earned." The forbidden abandonment/boycott is the cessation of speaking when meeting, and it is removed by extending and returning greetings. The hadith about deeds not ascending does not apply to the questioner; because she did not initiate the estrangement. Rather, she desired to change the relationship from special friendship to general brotherhood/sisterhood due to harm, and the sin is on the one who caused her harm. Apology is only required when you have committed a wrongdoing. As for the desire to reduce social interaction without abandonment/boycott, this is not something for which an apology is required. And abandoning excessive mingling is one of the causes for the rectification of the heart.
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