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Is it obligatory to obey a mother who prevents her son from seeking religious knowledge and compels him to engage in frivolous activities? Does the story of Jurayj apply to this situation? Is not keeping her company considered disobedience?

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The virtue of parents is immense, and showing them piety is among the most obligatory duties. Allah has associated gratitude to them with gratitude to Him, and kindness to them with His Oneness. He commanded companionship with them in kindness, even if they are disbelievers. Filial piety is among the most beloved deeds to Allah, and the mother is more deserving of piety and kindness. Obeying her and being humble towards her is a cause for entering Paradise.

Allah has warned that whoever disobeys their parents will not enter Paradise, and disobedience is one of the sins whose punishment is hastened in this world.

If seeking knowledge is obligatory, like obligatory acts of worship, and it cannot be acquired at home, then it is obligatory to go out to seek it, and it does not depend on the parents' permission. As for non-obligatory knowledge, you should not go out for it except with your mother's permission and contentment.

The Hadith of Jurayj the worshiper indicates giving precedence to filial piety over supererogatory acts of worship. If parents call their son while he is performing a supererogatory prayer, he should interrupt it. If he is performing an obligatory prayer, he should lighten it to answer them.

Strive to sit with your mother, keep her company, and avoid her anger as much as possible, for there are great rewards in that. Do not leave her company for the sake of supererogatory and recommended knowledge. You can engage your mother with the Quran, or remembrance, or beneficial stories while you are sitting with her.

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