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When is a father permitted to reject a suitor for his daughter, what are the legitimate and illegitimate reasons for doing so, is a father who rejects a suitor without legitimate reasons considered unjust, and is it sufficient for approval to consider only the suitor's character, religiosity, and ability to provide?

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The standard of compatibility in Islam is religious commitment and good character, as evidenced by the saying of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace: "If someone whose religious commitment and character you approve of proposes to your daughter, then marry her to him; otherwise, there will be tribulation on earth and widespread corruption." Some scholars believe that lineage is a criterion, but the more preponderant view is not to consider it. The guardian has the right to refuse a suitor for marriage if his religious commitment and character are not satisfactory, but he does not have the right to refuse for any other reason. If a guardian prevents his ward from marrying a compatible suitor, he is disobedient and in violation of the saying of Allah the Almighty: "So do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree among themselves in a lawful manner."

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