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Is a wife entitled to object to her husband who deliberately rebukes her and threatens her with divorce, exerts psychological pressure on her by taunting her about her family, curses and hurts her, and holds the maintenance over her head, especially since they have one child and are expecting another?

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Allah has ordained marriage, basing it on affection, mercy, and tranquility. He has established its rules on good companionship and kindness, and the best of people are those best to their families. Acknowledging hardship does not mean ignoring the husband's good qualities; rather, his kindness should be recalled, and one should not be carried away by negatives. A wise wife should strive not to be a cause for her husband's anger, and she should avoid blame and discussion during moments of anger. The wife and mother must preserve the family's cohesion and endure disturbances.

Some advice for a remedy: - Identify and avoid what upsets the husband, noting it down if necessary. - Consider the husband's words during anger as fleeting and unintentional, but without accepting injustice. - Discuss with him gently and wisely after he has calmed down, expressing her distress at his words. - Strive to appease him and fulfill his desires as much as possible. - Send messages of love and care to him and his family. - Repeat attempts and do not despair, even if the improvement is slight. - In case of no improvement, mediation by wise individuals from his family can be sought, with caution against revealing household secrets. - Review one's spiritual state and increase supplication for forgiveness and prayer for the improvement of the relationship between the spouses.

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