Anger and Patience
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How can I deal with my father's unjustified rejection of my engagement to a young man I love and who is religious and of good character, especially since I have sought God's guidance through Istikhara?
Does the ruling of "whoever abandons his brother" apply to one who apologized to her friends for a mistake, but they did not accept the apology, and does this prevent her from receiving forgiveness?
Is the non-occurrence of the awaited matter a consequence of masturbating after swearing with the words, "By God, O Lord, if I do it again, then do not fulfill for me anything I was awaiting its occurrence"? Is expiation due for this oath? And what is the way to achieve what is desired?
What is the meaning of the Prophet's saying, peace and blessings be upon him: "If he is given, he is thankful; if he is tried, he is patient; and if he is angry, he forgives," in the explanation of the hadith?
Are those who exchange acquittals considered sinful?
To what extent are the following hadiths authentic: "There are three who call upon Allah, but their prayers are not answered: a man who had a ill-mannered wife but did not divorce her..." and "Whoever bears patiently the ill manners of his wife, Allah will grant him a reward like that which He granted His Prophet Ayyub (Job), peace be upon him"? And how can these two be reconciled in the case of a husband who bears patiently with his ill-mannered wife?
What is the ruling on divorcing a thin wife whose physique causes her husband to be repulsed by her, leading to marital problems and a lack of desire? And is the husband's continued presence with her considered an injustice to her, especially since it sometimes results in her humiliation due to his repression?
What is the Islamic legal ruling on a wife seeking divorce from a husband who abandons her for the most trivial reasons, refrains from speaking for long months, and only returns upon her appeasement, when this abandonment has recurred in a manner that affects her dignity?
Is it considered bad manners to become angry with a colleague, even if they are in the wrong regarding you, if the anger stems from a feeling of humiliation and a desire for them to stop the humiliation?
To what extent is a man's doubting his wife and consulting others about divorcing her permissible, following the example of the Prophet's action - peace be upon him - in the incident of the Ifk? And was what the Prophet did before the revelation of the legislation requiring witnesses? What is the correct stance in dealing with such suspicions? Is the statement of Ali ibn Abi Talib in the incident of the Ifk permissible in our time? And was Aisha's saying "By Allah, I praise none but Allah" a rebuke to the Prophet - peace be upon him - for doubting her?
Is the questioner considered disobedient to his father, and what is the expiation for his sin, after he shouted at him and uttered inappropriate words due to his father's refusal to take medicine and his stubbornness, knowing that he performed his duty of serving him perfectly until his death?
What is the difference between al-'afw (forgiveness/pardoning), as-safḥ (overlooking/turning away from blame), al-maghfirah (covering/erasing sins), and ar-raḥmah (mercy), given that they are conjoined by "and" in the Qur'an?
Is it permissible for a father to order his daughter to marry a specific person against her will, and will her disobedience to this command anger her father and Allah?
Is it considered artificiality and pretense for a person to appear kind and calm to people while being sharp-tempered and emotional with their family? And is a person with a nervous disposition, who cannot control their temper at home, excused, while appearing well-mannered outside the home?
What are the categories of the attributes of Allah, Glory and Exaltation to Him, and how are both the "narrative attributes" and the "rational attributes" dealt with?
Does a mother hold a great status in the religion, no matter how cruel she becomes or how evil her deeds are? What is the best way to deal with her and establish proof against her, knowing that she utters evil, mistreats others, and slanders her son's wife's honor, despite his kindness to her and his bearing of her responsibility?
How can one deal with despair over the continuous deterioration of one's psychological and physical condition, despite abundant supplication, seeking forgiveness, and charity, and the fear that this might be an affliction due to sins?
How can an adolescent girl deal with her mother's anger and threats after her secret was revealed, and what is the way for her to reconcile with her mother and gain her approval, especially after she has contemplated suicide?
Is forgiveness considered valid if it comes after a period of initial abuse and anger, knowing that the anger was internal? And is the ability to exact retribution a prerequisite for forgiveness, or is forgiveness valid even without the ability to do so?
Is the reconciliation of the spouses valid after the intervention of the family and the mother's saying, "That's enough," upon seeing her son's aversion to his wife, followed by renewed deliberations that concluded with reconciliation?
Is the loss of all a non-trained trader's money in the currency exchange a punishment or a trial from Allah?
Does the sign of the Hour indicate that the earthly prostration (sajdah) and all that it contains are equal to the elevation of the reward of prostration due to the scarcity of worshippers near the Hour? And does the reward of righteous deeds depend on the environment in which one lives? And does Allah get angry with a person who fears His wrath and loves Him? And how does a servant attain Allah’s forgiveness if he does not fear Him as He should be feared? And is it permissible for a servant to wish for affliction to befall him, seeking the reward of patience?
What are the deeds described as "matters of high resolve" (ʿazāʾim al-umūr) in the Qur’an and Sunnah, such as patience and forgiveness, mentioned in His, the Almighty’s, saying: {But whoever is patient and forgives—indeed, that is of the matters of high resolve} and in Surahs Al Imran and Luqman?
Is the daughter sinful for what transpires between her and her mother, who sows discord among her children, curses her, and makes the household hate her? And is she held accountable for what she says in moments of anger? And is the mother sinful for her shortcomings towards her children if the fault lies with her? And is the daughter considered disobedient if the mother says she is displeased with her forever?