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What is the optimal way to maintain the minimum level of kinship ties with my paternal uncles and aunts, considering my weak social skills, lack of motivation to communicate, the presence of reprehensible acts among some of them, and the fear of Allah's punishment for those who sever kinship ties?

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What helps you endure your relatives is recalling the virtue of maintaining kinship ties and seeking Allah’s pleasure, for the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "If you are as you say, then you are feeding them hot ashes, and there will always be a supporter from Allah with you against them, as long as you persist in that." Introversion is a temporary condition that can be treated. There is no specific duration defined in Sharia for the absence of connection that would be considered a severance of ties. Kinship ties can be maintained through many means other than visiting, such as calling, exchanging greetings, and various forms of kindness, including financial support, assistance, averting harm, a cheerful countenance, and supplication. If kin are disbelievers or transgressors, then boycotting them for the sake of Allah is their way of maintaining ties, provided that effort is made to admonish them and inform them of the reason for the boycott, along with supplicating for them in their absence.

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