How can one deal with a husband's father who constantly asks his son to drive him to social events, which affects the son's and his wife's family life and causes disagreements?

Our advice to you is to leave your job as long as you do not need it, so that you can devote yourself to raising your children and taking care of your family and husband. The cause of the problem is your job. Your husband must honor his father and fulfill his needs, and you should be an aid to him in this. As for him cursing you, this is not permissible for him, and he should be advised kindly.