What should a wife do if her husband quarrels and curses a lot, making their life together impossible and affecting their marital relationship, so much so that she sometimes refuses his conjugal right and sometimes performs it grudgingly, and he, in turn, does not fulfill her conjugal right, telling her: "I am not responsible for not satisfying your desire for me, and this is how I am, do you want me or not, as you wish?" bearing in mind that she is committed and fears the whispers of Satan?
Cursing a Muslim is a grave sin. We advise the questioner, our sister, to be patient with her husband's bad manners, out of consideration for her children, and to seek her reward from Allah. It is not permissible for her to fall short in fulfilling her husband's rights, even if he is abusive. She can seek help from someone who influences him to advise him and remind him of Allah, the Hereafter, and the rights each has upon the other.
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