What should a husband do if he swore that his wife must return his abusive words with the exact same abusive words to avoid divorce, yet she repeatedly abuses him and utters the word of divorce? Does she become divorced if he does not return her words with the word of divorce that she uttered, knowing that he does not wish to divorce her?

If a man says to his wife: "If I do not reply to you with the exact same words, you are divorced," and she says to him: "You are divorced," then he is not obligated to reply to her with the exact same phrase. This is because his intention was to respond to an insult, and the wife's words are not an insult. Oaths are based on intentions, and a general expression is specified by custom, habit, and intellect.