What is the way to deal with a mother who refuses her married daughter to live in a city other than her hometown, and sees her failure to return as disobedience and neglect, knowing that the daughter visits her family and provides them with financial assistance?

As the marriage has taken place, the wife is obligated to obey her husband and prioritize his obedience over that of her mother, because his obedience is more incumbent and binding than the obedience of anyone else. The wife must try to appease her mother to the best of her ability by visiting her, reassuring her, and doing what she asks whenever she is able, provided that this does not lead to disobeying her husband.