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Should a woman weak in faith and character, who is aware of her own shortcomings, accept marriage to a man of faith and good character who believes her to be better than she is, or should she refuse him so as not to deceive him?

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There is no blame on a woman for concealing her flaws from a suitor, as long as she does not lie or deceive him, except for flaws that prevent intercourse or repulsive and contagious diseases, which must be disclosed. Therefore, a woman should not reject a suitor who possesses religiosity and good character because of her flaws; rather, she should strive to improve herself, for good morals are acquired through habituation and training, as Abu al-Darda' said: "Knowledge is acquired through learning, and forbearance is acquired through forbearance."

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