How can I fix what I have ruined after messaging a girl I liked, complimenting her, and sending her a poem, which led her to delete her account from the site, knowing that I fear I may have made her life miserable? Should I confess to her and apologize in person, or ask a mutual friend to convey my apology to her? Bearing in mind that I cannot marry her currently due to my study circumstances.
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What you did by speaking to this girl, praising her beauty, and composing poetry about her, is unlawful in Islamic law. It is following the footsteps of Satan, which lead to immorality, in fulfillment of Allah's saying: "O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing."
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