Is it permissible for a husband to seek divorce from his wife despite the presence of children, and the marital relationship reaching a degree of abhorrence and inability to coexist, and would he be considered unjust to his children if he were to do so?

Divorce is disliked without need, and may even reach the level of prohibition; its default ruling is impermissibility. Do not resort to divorce as long as possible. Strive to reach an understanding with your wife and seek reconciliation with the presence of wise individuals. An independent dwelling is a right for the wife, and she is not obliged to live with your family. If an independent dwelling with its facilities is provided for her in a part of the family home, she has no right to refuse. Your dislike for your wife does not justify oppressing her or withholding her rights, nor does it necessitate divorce, unless its benefit outweighs its harm. In the event of divorce, be careful that the separation does not negatively affect the children, and avoid disputes over custody. Obedience to parents regarding the issue of dwelling is conditioned by what is in their best interest and without harm to the child; their care and communication with them remain an obligation even when living independently.