What is the ruling of Islamic law on agreeing to postpone the presentation of the dowry (shabka) and the date of writing the list (of contents for the marital home), and dividing the purchase of household furniture? Does the former suitor's insistence on his opinion mean he is still committed? And is it correct to continue trying?

The solution in such matters lies in the mutual consent and reconciliation of the parties. The ruling of Islamic law in these cases often defers to custom. The husband is required to pay the mahr, whether it is money, jewelry (shabaka), or a list of items, according to custom. If the shabaka is part of the mahr, it takes its ruling; otherwise, it is a gift. After the payment of the mahr, the wife is not permitted to refuse her husband. The husband is compelled to pay the mahr first, and then the wife is compelled to surrender herself. Furnishing the home is solely the husband's responsibility; the mahr is the wife's right to dispose of as she wishes, and she is not obligated to prepare the home. He is the one who must provide the marital residence with furnishings, belongings, and tools. If the wife does so, she is acting as a volunteer. The disagreement does not mean the man is not committed to the marriage, but the actions of the family might not please him. It is not permissible for a woman to be alone in seclusion with a foreign suitor or to be overly familiar with him; communication should be through her mahrams or guardians. Guardians are not permitted to obstruct a marriage due to peripheral matters as long as the suitor is suitable and the wife desires him.