What is the ruling of Islamic law regarding the suitor’s demands, represented by his refusal to write a list of movables and the deferred dower, and his refusal to show the marital home before marriage, and what is the way to marry him?

The writing of the list of household items (manqulat) is subject to custom and agreement between the spouses. The dowry (sadaq) may be prompt or deferred, and it is permissible for some of it to be prompt and some deferred. It is valid for it to be gold, but it is not valid for it to be unknown. It is obligatory for the husband to provide an independent and suitable dwelling for his wife, and he is not required to specify the dwelling before consummation. It is advised to obey the father in leaving the man unless there is harm in doing so.