Does Islam stipulate social compatibility for marriage, and what should a girl do regarding her parents' rejection of a suitor who is religious and of good character, despite her having sought divine guidance (istikharah) and counsel (istisharah) and wishing to complete the engagement, with their objection stemming from his being socially unsuitable based on his family's place of residence and upbringing, knowing that his family is well-off?
The preponderant view is that the only recognized compatibility between spouses is religion. However, closeness in other matters is desirable as it facilitates understanding and stability. A slight disparity in social or financial aspects should not prevent acceptance. If a woman is content with a compatible suitor, her guardian has no right to prevent her. If he does so, he is obstructing her marriage (ʿāḍil), and she has the right to refer the matter to a judge. Often, a father is keen on his daughter's welfare, so it is recommended to try to convince him of the suitor and seek the help of wise individuals. If the father insists on refusing, it is preferable to withdraw from the suitor and make supplication, unless leaving him would cause harm. In such a case, it is permissible to marry through the guardian who ranks after the father. She must also honor her father, treating him with politeness, respect, and gentleness.
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