Is it obligatory to present the matter of marriage to the family and confess intense love for a girl older than the young man, or is it better to wait until university graduation, taking into account the possibility of the girl marrying during the waiting period, and the family's refusal of the young man's marriage before graduation and to marrying an older girl?
The questioner is thanked for avoiding looking at women and TV series. He should strive hard and diligently in all that aids chastity, especially fasting, due to the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) saying: "O young people, whoever among you can afford to marry, let him do so, for it helps him lower his gaze and guard his chastity. And whoever cannot afford to marry, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him." Marriage is better for those who love each other, and study and age difference are not impediments to marriage, so he should try to convince his family of that. If marriage is not possible, let him be patient until he completes his studies, and there are many other women.
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