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What is the best way to deal with a father who is ill-mannered and short-tempered, abuses his wife and children, and disrespects his wife's family, despite attempts to advise him, knowing that he prays, fasts, and sometimes has some positive qualities?

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If the father is in the state described, committing reprehensible acts, one must continue to supplicate for his guidance and righteousness, exercise patience, and offer him gentle and kind advice. It is preferable that the advice come from someone who is likely to have an influence on him. It is obligatory to honor him, treat him with kindness, and not harm him in any way, for kindness to one who wrongs may lead to his change. "And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that which is better; then abruptly your enemy will be as if he were a devoted friend." If the father desires to marry another woman, he has the right to do so, provided there is justice. The wife has the right to demand justice or divorce in case of harm.

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