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What is the ruling of Islamic law on this story? Is a fiancé entitled to prevent his fiancée from speaking to him, even to greet him, on formal occasions? Does what happened constitute an existing formal engagement, or has it ended and needs to be renewed? Is it permissible for a suitor to speak with the girl without her parents' knowledge if the conversation does not violate modesty? Is another person entitled to propose to the girl without the suitor's knowledge, as long as there is an agreement to complete the procedures later? Does he have the right to publicly hear the girl's opinion if the father wishes to end the matter? Is he allowed to sue the father for what he did to him?

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The Islamic Sharia has been keen on facilitating marriage, hence it disliked extravagance in dowries and considered a small dowry to be a blessing in marriage and a sign of good fortune for the woman. Therefore, guardians should facilitate the marriage of their daughters and not place obstacles. What transpired between you and the girl's father is considered an engagement, which is a promise of marriage that requires nothing more than the consent of the guardian and the girl. It is not permissible to speak with the girl without her family's knowledge, nor is it permissible to propose to an already engaged woman. You cannot marry without a guardian, and should the guardian break his promise, you can sue him.

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