What is the solution to the problem of speaking to one's mother in an inappropriate or loud manner, followed by remorse and seeking forgiveness, with this behavior recurring despite the daughter knowing it is wrong?

The solution is for you to remember Allah's command regarding honoring your mother, obeying her, and treating her with kindness. She bore you with difficulty and delivered you with difficulty, and she stayed up for your comfort. She is the most deserving of your good companionship. Disobeying her is one of the greatest sins, and its punishment is hastened in this world before the Hereafter.