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Is cutting ties with kin permissible to ward off severe and continuous harm from relatives, and does one incur sin for it, especially if maintaining contact with them leads to greater harm?

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It is strange that the situation between cousins has reached such a degree of harm and estrangement, despite their kinship and in-law relationship, which necessitates maintaining ties of kinship. And if the husband harms his wife, this is an injustice, and it was more appropriate for wise people to intervene to reconcile them, in accordance with the verse: "And if you fear a breach between them, appoint an arbiter from his people and an arbiter from her people." We recommend seeking a way to reconcile and involving people of virtue, for reconciliation is among the greatest acts of nearness [to Allah]. One should not despair, but rather turn to Allah in prayer. If reconciliation is achieved, then that is good. Otherwise, the sin is upon whoever insists on estrangement, and the best of two disputants is the one who initiates peace. Their harm is not an excuse to abandon ties with them; rather, the means of connection that cause harm should be abandoned, and connection should be maintained through other possible means.

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