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Should a religious and well-mannered suitor be left due to his stinginess, or should one be patient with him?

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Stinginess is a reprehensible quality, and the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, sought refuge from it. However, no human being is perfect, and if a person's virtues outweigh their flaws, their shortcomings can be overlooked. The Prophet warned against focusing on others' shortcomings and exaggerating them, saying: "No believing man should hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another." What has been mentioned is not enough to describe the suitor as stingy, as there might be other reasons behind his actions. It is necessary to confirm this trait by asking about him and observing his behavior. If his stinginess is confirmed, then a comparison must be made between his good qualities and this trait, and whether his stinginess is so severe that it is impossible to live with, or if it is minor and can be overlooked. Satan may whisper to a person to deter them from good, so she should seek refuge in Allah and supplicate.

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