Back to search

How can a girl act when her maternal cousin proposes to her, given that she has no emotional inclination towards him, coupled with significant family pressure not to refuse, and the situation has worsened after performing Istikhara?

1 min readAlso available in العربية

There is no justification for the hesitation regarding marriage to a young man who possesses good qualities such as religiosity, character, and handsomeness, especially since he is a relative. This is particularly true if the rejection stems from waiting for another unknown person with characteristics that may never materialize. Emotional inclination often develops through good companionship, and prioritizing a person of religion and good character is a matter of Islamic etiquette. This state of indecision is natural for young women on the verge of marriage, but it becomes a problem if it is linked to waiting for an unknown future. The questioner should sit with herself and weigh the pros and cons of the suitor, seek refuge in Allah from intrusive thoughts, and choose based on his religion and character. If, after contemplation, she finds herself unable to proceed, she should make a decision now before matters become complicated or the marriage takes place. She must be courageous and make her own decision, seeking assistance from Allah and asking Him for guidance and the right choice.

Summarized from the full answer at Ftawy · reviewed Sep 2, 2026

Read the full answer on Ftawy