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How can one choose the suitable wife? Is it necessary to feel attraction or psychological acceptance from the first sight? What is the correct meaning of the hadith "may there be harmony between you two" in the context of choosing a wife? And does overlooking beauty for the sake of religiosity and character lead to injustice?

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Source: FtawySummary from Ftawy's records · added here Sep 2, 20261 min readAlso available in العربية
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It is obligatory to hasten to repent from masturbation and to strive for marriage as an initiative to preserve one's chastity, which is obligatory for anyone who fears temptation. Among the most important objectives of engagement is compatibility and the acceptance of each party by the other, as guided by the : "for it is more likely to create affection between you." The heart's acceptance of the fiancée is required, and there is no harm in repeatedly looking at the fiancée when needed. The most important quality to consider is the woman's religiosity, without neglecting other attributes, but without exaggeration. Among the things that help achieve success in marriage is performing (prayer for guidance). If divorce occurs, there is no injustice to the woman in it, for divorce is permissible and may contain good for both spouses when cohabitation becomes impossible.

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