Why did the Prophet (peace be upon him) refuse to marry Fatimah to Abu Bakr and Umar, citing her young age, while he married Aisha when she was younger than Fatimah? And does Al-Sindi's statement, "That may be left for what is higher than it," regarding Aisha's marriage, mean that there was something higher than the marriage of Abu Bakr and Umar, except in the marriage of the Prophet (peace be upon him)? And does this apply to the exclusivity of Lady Fatimah or the Prophet (peace be upon him)?
The meaning of Al-Sindi's statement, "That may be abandoned for what is superior to it," is that the benefit of closeness in age between spouses may be abandoned for a greater benefit, such as when the husband possesses great virtue and distinguished qualities. This was the case in the marriage of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, to Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, as she was young in age, but her marriage to him was a supreme benefit due to his immense virtue. Thus, age compatibility is only considered if the husband does not possess a virtue that compensates for the age difference; otherwise, there is no harm in the disparity. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, presented Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, to marry Fatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, due to their closeness in age, which ensures lasting affection and love, the very purpose of marriage.
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