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Is a girl considered disobedient to her parents and held accountable for her outburst and raising her voice at her father, who suffers from psychosis and bipolar disorder, and who abuses them and falsely accuses them, while she tries her best to avoid problems but suffers from significant psychological and financial pressures, especially with a brother who suffers from the same illness and adds to their suffering?

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Source: FtawySummarized from the full answer at Ftawy · reviewed Sep 2, 20261 min readAlso available in العربية
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This trial is to be endured with patience, by which sins are expiated and ranks are elevated, and by increasing dhikr (remembrance of Allah), which brings joy and happiness to the heart and strengthens both the heart and the body.

Add to that, pray for your father and brother for healing, for Allah the Almighty is the One who said: "Is not He who responds to the distressed one when he calls upon Him and removes evil?"

Filial piety towards parents is one of the greatest rights and a cause for Allah's pleasure and entry into Paradise. The obligation of respecting your father and showing humility towards him does not cease, no matter how much he wrongs or harms you.

The quarreling and raising of your voice, which is reprehensible and an act of disobedience, requires you to repent from it. Strive against yourself and control your temper. If anger overtakes you, seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan, and if you fear blameworthy behavior, then leave his presence until the anger subsides.

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