Why were dowries called wages, and are they the wage for a man's enjoyment of a woman? Does this not demean women and turn them into commodities?

Allah named the Mahr (dowry) as a wage (ajr), a gift (niḥlah), and a ṣadāq (dower), to show the importance of marriage and the honor of women, and that it is not solely a compensation for the man. Rather, the woman also has a share in it, for half of the mahr is established upon the contract, and it becomes complete with consummation or death before consummation. Thus, the mahr is outwardly a wage and in reality a gift and an honor for the woman. The wisdom behind the mahr is to demonstrate the status of the contract and to honor the woman, enabling her to prepare for marriage. Marriage is not limited to physical enjoyment; rather, it is a bond of tranquility, affection, and mercy for building a believing family, with the importance of lawful enjoyment for both spouses. A wife's obedience to her husband in bed is among his great rights upon her, even if she is busy, unless it harms her. Misunderstanding of marriage arises in those who have not experienced it or have been afflicted with a bad partner. All of Allah's legislation is perfect and just, and the error of human practices does not judge divine law.