How do we respond to someone who forbids the Daff (tambourine) by citing the Companion's saying: "It was permitted for us at weddings," and that a permit is only for something originally forbidden?

Scholars have adopted different views regarding playing the duff (tambourine):

Hanafi school: They permitted it at weddings, and Abu Yusuf allowed it absolutely, as long as it was not for immorality. Maliki school: The well-known opinion among them restricts it to weddings, and some said it is permissible for any joyous occasion. Some also allowed it for young women in their homes, and most of them permitted it for men. Shafi'i school: They permit it at weddings and consider it desirable, and for every joyous occasion similar to a wedding, according to the soundest opinion. It is forbidden in other contexts. They permitted it for both men and women. Hanbali school: They consider it desirable at weddings and similar events. The prevailing view restricts it to women and considers it disliked for men. It is also disliked for occasions other than weddings and similar events.

In summary: Playing the duff is either desirable or permissible at weddings and similar events for women by agreement. There is a difference of opinion regarding men playing it, with the majority allowing it. As for occasions other than weddings, there is a divergence of opinion between prohibition, dislike, and permissibility. Precaution and piety dictate refraining from it in contexts other than those permitted by religious law.