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Should the suitor be told about the entire past? Is the questioner considered an adulteress and deserving of rejection? Is she considered cursed and cast out of Allah's mercy because of her lying under oath? Is her repentance invalid as long as she does not wear the jilbab? Is obedience to the suitor obligatory in his affairs?

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A Muslim woman is not permitted to establish relationships with foreign men, and what occurred with them is proof of theHadith’s authenticity: “No one of you should be alone with a woman, for Satan will be the third one present.” One must initiate sincere repentance and sever any relationship with a foreign man, who is anyone not a husband or a mahram. It is not permissible to disclose hidden matters, even to one’s husband, and not informing him about the past is not deception. Anal intercourse is consideredzina and necessitates the prescribed legal punishment (hadd). Cursing oneself is a grave sin, and repentance from it is obligatory. The condition of one who repents from a sin may become better, and one should not dwell on the past but rather strive to improve one’s deeds. Sin may deprive one of sustenance, but one should turn to Allah to ask for a righteous husband. The Shar’i hijab has specific characteristics, and repenting from negligence in wearing the hijab is not a prerequisite for repenting from other sins. The man mentioned committed an abomination, and if he proposes marriage, one must inquire about his religiosity and character and performIstikhara.

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