Will I be sinful if I cut off my paternal uncles and aunts—meaning, not dedicating time to visit them or ask about them—due to their ill-treatment of my parents and family, and the psychological distress this treatment causes me, knowing that my parents insist that I do not show any resentment towards them?
Islamic law mandates maintaining kinship ties and warns against severing them without a valid Shar'i excuse. The wrongdoing of relatives does not justify cutting them off. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "If you are as you have said, then it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will continue to have support from Allah against them as long as you persist in that." He also said: "The one who maintains ties is not the one who reciprocates, but rather the one who, when his kinship ties are cut off, reconnects them." The correct approach is to respond to ill-treatment with kindness and continued connection, even if through a phone call and inquiring about their well-being, or extending a helping hand, while praying for their guidance.
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