What is the way to overcome the pains of divorce and loneliness after many attempts, and is the suffering a result of circumstances or of oneself?

This worldly life is a realm of trials, worries, and distress, while the Hereafter is the abode of everlasting bliss. If you are patient and content with your Lord, He will grant you patience, contentment, and a great reward. Whatever has befallen you is by the knowledge, decree, and predestination of Allah. Allah the Almighty said: "But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not." (2:216) It is advised to turn to Allah with supplication and earnest pleading, asking Him to expand your breast, inspire you with guidance, relieve your distress, and grant you patience, certainty, and a righteous husband. Look at those who are in a worse state than you. Do not succumb to loneliness and dwell on pain. Instead, seek righteous company and cooperate with them in goodness and the pursuit of knowledge, and resume your life anew.