Is it permissible to seek divorce from a selfish and narcissistic husband, when he causes you distress and illness, and you have reached a stage of hating the marital relationship, especially given the presence of a son who suffers from autism and the need to remain in a foreign country to care for him, and does the husband have the right to force you to return to your home country under the pretext that the foreign country is not Muslim?

We advise you to supplicate to Allah for your husband, asking Him to rectify his situation, and to offer him advice gently and kindly, or to appoint someone to advise him. Emphasize the importance of prayer in refining conduct, and remind him of Allah's command to husbands to treat their wives well. If the harm persists, you have the right to seek a divorce, while weighing the benefit against patience. It is not permissible for you to withhold his conjugal right, and your dislike for him is not a legitimate excuse. If separation occurs, he does not have the right to compel you to return to your country if you are able to stay, but he is not obligated to maintain your residency if it is dependent on him. The mere fact that a country is a land of disbelief does not necessitate migration from it.