Would a committed girl reject a committed suitor who listens to music and attends mixed-gender weddings that include music, especially if he agrees not to take her to those weddings, knowing that she wants a wedding with only the tambourine (daf), and that her community does not marry in this way? And would she accept someone who agrees to the so-called "Islamic" weddings but he himself attends forbidden weddings? And would she start with him by gradually listening to "Islamic" songs? Or should she reject him completely and wait for someone who agrees to her conditions? And is it permissible for her to ask her parents to marry her to a committed young man? And what is the interpretation of the hadith "If someone whose religion and character you approve of comes to you [seeking marriage]," and how can one determine which sins warrant rejection or acceptance? And is listening to music considered among the matters for which a young man should be rejected? And what is the most suitable option for her to gradually abstain from attending mixed-gender weddings, given her fear of dying in that state? And what is the authenticity of the story of Umar ibn Abd al-Aziz regarding the gradual prohibition of sins?