Is a daughter who repeatedly refuses marriage, insisting on waiting for someone with whom she feels at ease, despite her distinction and numerous suitors, and who causes grief to her parents, considered disobedient to her parents? Is marriage a matter of choice, with no sin upon whoever forsakes it despite being able to do so? Is the correct stance that of the parents, who believe she should rely on Allah and accept marriage to someone her father approves of, or is it her view, to wait for someone with whom she feels at ease?

Marriage is among the practices of the prophets, and it has five rulings: it is obligatory if one fears falling into fornication; it is desirable for someone who has desire but does not fear fornication; it is permissible for someone who has no desire; it is disliked; and it is forbidden if the husband knows he is unable to provide for his wife and keep her chaste. A girl must obey her parents regarding marriage if there is no legitimate Shar’i reason for her refusal, and delaying marriage can lead to rumors and health problems. The mother’s statement that she will not accept her daughter’s deeds if she refuses marriage is incorrect. A girl must be humble and grateful for blessings, and she should know that a feeling of unease is not the only sign for rejecting a suitor.