Is it prescribed in Sharia that a young man is unable to get to know a girl he wishes to propose to before his parents are present, and how can he get to know her in a Sharia-compliant way in this situation, and what should a young man know about the girl before proposing, and is what has been mentioned about her sufficient for him to propose to her?
Marrying a chaste woman is a good thing, and her family’s and father’s stance is sound, as Islamic law permits looking at the betrothed woman for someone who predominantly expects the proposal to be accepted. It is permissible to inquire about the family, and such inquiry is not forbidden backbiting if it is for the purpose of giving advice. The girl can be identified by looking at her, or by sending a mahram woman from your family to describe her, and it is best that this be before the engagement. The following characteristics should be present in a wife: she should be religious, fertile, a virgin, of noble lineage, beautiful, and intelligent. One must be careful about conversing with non-mahram women online due to the inherent risk in that.
Summarized from the full answer at Ftawy · reviewed Sep 2, 2026
Read the full answer on Ftawyhttps://ftawy.com/en/questions/6752