Is the husband's saying: "You are not needed by me" or "Do you think you can target one of my family and I remain silent?" and what followed, considered a divorce?

First: The aforementioned phrase is one of the allusions to divorce, and it takes effect if the husband intends divorce by it. If he intended divorce by it, and it was conditioned on the questioner's intention regarding his father, then it became clear that she intended his mother, then no divorce occurs, unless he intended a divorce with the second utterance of divorce. However, if the questioner doubts the occurrence of divorce, the default is the continuation of the marriage. If a man divorces his wife before consummation, she is separated from him, and he does not have the right to take her back except with a new contract.

Second: The household is based on the leadership of the man, and women have rights and duties, and men have a degree of authority over them, as Allah Almighty said: (And due to them is [reciprocation] of that which is [due] upon them, in a reasonable manner, but the men have a degree over them). Dealing should be based on consultation and gentleness, and the wife should not assist Satan against her husband, and she should avoid provoking his anger. Both spouses should address the husband's intensity and sensitivity towards his family before the marriage is finalized to ensure the stability of their lives.