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What is the meaning of increase in the manner and extent of shunning disobedient people, and how can shunning be applied to relatives and parents who reject it? Is it permissible to shun family and relatives, other than parents, after advice proves futile? What is the ruling on reducing time spent with disobedient parents and relatives? Is shunning permissible in places where parents are not present? Should shunning be attempted to determine if a benefit outweighs a harm? What is the ruling if parents refuse the daʿwah (invitation to Islam) due to shunning or reduced companionship? Is it obligatory or sunnah to shun disobedient people in beneficial worldly matters? What if they refuse to help me in worldly affairs due to shunning?

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The article explained that the entire divine law is for the benefit [of humanity], and hajr (shunning/boycotting) is a means to achieve this benefit. If hajr does not achieve an intended benefit (such as reforming the shunned person or realizing a public good), then it is not permissible. The quantity and manner of hajr must be considered and vary according to the situation. The author provided examples of the Prophet's (peace be upon him) shunning of some of his companions.

As for relatives and kin, their right is greater, and shunning them is not permissible except for an overriding legitimate benefit.

Regarding parents' anger due to reduced socializing with relatives because of sins committed there, one should attend to admonish them gently and wisely. There is no blame on someone who fears Allah, even if they do not accept the advice.

Determining the appropriate hajr depends on one's assessment of their own situation, those around them, and their society. Hajr varies according to the strength and weakness of those who shun, and its purpose is to deter and discipline the shunned person.

Finally, benefiting the questioner or her benefiting in worldly matters can occur with some forms of hajr, such as shunning places of disobedience, but it does not occur with hajr in the sense of complete severance and separation.

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