What is the ruling on: 1. The mother accepting the father's wrongdoings and remaining silent about them for 45 years? 2. The mother agreeing to the father marrying another woman to benefit from her wealth? 3. The father, mother, and siblings squandering the stepmother's money or even the father's money? 4. The mother turning against the father now, claiming injustice, even though she previously accepted the situation and served the second wife? 5. The mother supplicating against anyone who disagrees with her? 6. The legitimate stance regarding these family mistakes, especially with the questioner and her husband's rejection of them? 7. The status of kinship ties in light of these actions, and does Allah approve of this situation that has affected the questioner's marital life?

The following points answer the questions raised:

1. If the mother observes wrong actions from the father, it is her duty to advise him. If there is nothing that necessitates his apostasy, she is not obligated to seek divorce. 2. A man marrying a second wife is permissible provided there is justice, and the mother's approval of it is commendable. The intention to benefit from the second wife's money does not affect the validity of the marriage. 3. Extravagance (تبذير) is forbidden, and if it involves the money of another without their consent, the sin is greater. 4. There is no objection to the mother demanding from the father a separate dwelling, or maintenance, or justice between her and his second wife, even if she had previously waived some of these rights. 5. A mother's supplication against someone who disobeys her is not answered if it is not rightful, and there is a concern that her supplication against her children might be answered even if the child has an excuse. 6. The position of children and their wives is to advise the one who errs gently and kindly. Forbidding parents from evil is not disobedience but rather an act of beneficence. 7. Maintaining kinship ties (صلة الرحم) is obligatory in all circumstances, especially with parents, and should be done according to what is possible and customary.

We advise patience with parents' actions, supplicating for their guidance and righteousness, and striving to be dutiful to them even if they do wrong.