What is the ruling on a fiancée giving her fiancé a picture or video of herself, speaking with him via video in romantic speech, exchanging romantic messages, removing her hijab and wearing tight, short, or transparent clothes, adorning herself with all types of makeup, contact lenses, false eyelashes, and artificial nails in front of him, and his touching, kissing, or embracing her, or going out with him without a mahram, or being in seclusion with him? And what should she do if he gives her a choice between that or breaking off the engagement? And what should she do if her family agrees to what the suitor requests?
The fiancée is a stranger to her suitor until the legitimate marriage contract is concluded. Therefore, it is not permissible for her to enable him to do what was mentioned in the question before the contract. Whoever requests such a thing is not someone whose religious commitment and character are satisfactory. It is not permissible to obey parents in disobedience to Allah; "There is no obedience in disobedience; obedience is only in what is right." Parents must protect their daughters from corruption and temptation, for Allah Almighty says: "O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire."
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