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Is it permissible to converse with a girl one intends to marry in the future, with the consent of both families, until she reaches the appropriate age for marriage?

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Relationships between young men and women, under the pretext of love and marriage, are a gateway to evil and corruption. If a heartfelt attachment occurs between a man and a woman who is not his محرم (unmarriageable kin), it is not permissible to exchange words or messages. The legitimate path is for him to propose to her family if he is capable of marriage. If marriage is not feasible, then both should turn away from this attachment and strive to maintain chastity through marriage, occupying their time with what benefits them in their religious and worldly affairs. It is not permissible to converse with a girl or message her unnecessarily, out of fear of temptation (fitna). Speaking with a young woman who is not a محرم is not permissible without a need, as it is a cause for suspicion and temptation. One must occupy oneself with what benefits them in their religious and worldly affairs.

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