Does a divorce take place if a husband says to his wife, "You are divorced if you harbor forbidden feelings or love for this man," or if he says, "You are divorced if you feel guilt or that you are betraying your husband"? And in this case, does it count as three divorces?

The path the husband took by suspending the divorce of his wife is not upright. The proper way is to be her guardian and to keep her away from situations of doubt. As long as the wife stated that she does not love this man or anyone else, and she did not tell anyone about her communication with him, then the suspended divorce has not taken place.