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What should I do with my wife, whom I see as stubborn, who tells her family everything, does not commit to prayer, and refuses to have another child under the pretext of studying, despite my strong desire to have a male child? Should I divorce her, despite my fear of the sin of divorce and its effect on my daughter?

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The most serious issue in your message is your wife's neglect of prayer. Missing even one prayer is among the greatest sins, and many scholars have considered one who does this to be a disbeliever. Her refusal to have children and her defiance towards you constitute nushuz (rebellion), which incurs Allah's wrath and forfeits her right to maintenance. We advise you to counsel your wife gently and kindly, explaining the immense importance of prayer, the obligation of her obedience to you, and warning her of the consequences of nushuz. If she persists in her state, we advise you to divorce her. Do not despair concerning your daughter; supplicate for her and do your utmost to raise her, for whoever leaves a woman for the sake of Allah, Allah will not forsake him. And Allah knows best.

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