What is the way to deal with a mother who boycotts her daughter for months over trivial reasons, while the daughter fears God's punishment and wishes not to forget her mother's favor, despite the mother's harsh actions?
Allah Almighty commanded kindness to parents and to accompany them with goodness, as stated in His verse: "And accompany them in this world with goodness" [Luqman: 15], and "And We have enjoined upon man [to show] kindness to his parents" [Al-Ahqaf: 15].
One must be patient with the harm caused by the mother and respond to her ill-treatment with kindness. The questioner's harsh reply to his mother and mentioning her faults is a great sin and an act of disobedience, and he must repent sincerely and frequently seek forgiveness. Allah Almighty said: "So do not say to them, 'uff,' and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word" [Al-Isra: 23].
Allah has forbidden disobedience to mothers, and the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "A boastful person, a disobedient person, and a habitual drunkard shall not enter Paradise." The right of parents is: "They are your Paradise and your Hellfire."
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