Does a divorce issued by the husband three times take effect, even though he did not intend divorce the first time, and in the subsequent two times aimed to deter and discipline his wife, with his desire to reconcile with her?

You have fallen into several Sharia-related errors: First: Your relationship with the woman before marriage is forbidden. Second: Your agreement with her to marry while she is married is unanimously forbidden. Third: Your insistence on her to adhere to the commands of Sharia all at once; what is required is gentleness in inviting her. Fourth: Your dispraise of her people, which provoked her resentment.

As for the divorce message, it is a kinayah (allusive expression), the ruling of which depends on your intention. As for the two divorces over the phone, they are binding even if you did not intend them. You can take your wife back before the end of her iddah (waiting period) if you did not intend to effect the divorce with your first writing. We advise you to be gentle with her and not to hasten to divorce.