Is it considered filial piety for a husband to fulfill his mother's wishes at the expense of his wife's feelings, disregarding her opinion and desires, and demanding that she be a replica of his mother? And how can the wife deal with this situation?

Conflicts in desires are a human characteristic and frequently occur between a wife and her husband's mother. The wise wife understands that her husband has two rights: the right of his mother, which takes precedence, and her right. She should be a support for her husband and relinquish her permissible desires if they conflict with his mother's desire, because obedience to the mother takes precedence. If the husband's obedience to his mother is at the expense of a compulsory right of hers, she should advise him kindly and be patient, seeking reward from Allah. She should also mend her relationship with her husband's mother. A wife who possesses these qualities gains the love of both her husband and his mother, and her desires will be given precedence. The husband is advised to be dutiful to his mother and to give his wife her rights without shortcomings, and not to treat her harshly or diminish her rights, for obedience is in what is right and lawful.