What are the limits of Allah and how should I act regarding my mother-in-law's interference in my marital affairs and my husband's fear of displeasing his mother, given my feeling of losing my role as a wife and my independence?

The wife is advised to have a good opinion of her mother-in-law, to be patient with her actions, to repel her evil deeds with good ones, to help her husband in honoring his mother, to prioritize the mother's desires over her own in permissible matters when they conflict, and to try to mend her relationship with her. The husband should honor his mother and give his wife her full rights, and he should provide her with independent housing if living together causes problems.