What is the ruling on threatening and intimidating for a purpose, such as a man saying to his wife: "Go to your family's house and I will send you your paper," meaning by that to rebuke her, while in his heart he means a paper from a book?

It is permissible to discipline a wife through threatening or intimidating her if there is a benefit in doing so, such as her disobedience to her husband. It is also permissible to administer non-brutal beating sometimes if admonition and threats are ineffective. Divorce is not necessitated by a husband saying something to his wife that he did not intend as a divorce, but rather as a rebuke.