How can the engagement period be spent without sin, while understanding the fiancée's personality and restoring trust between the two parties, especially since there is a 10-year age difference between them and she is a relative, after the fiancée felt that her fiancé does not lower his gaze?

Unrestricted gazing spoils both one's religion and worldly life, and it bequeaths sorrow and pain. For a glance generates a thought, then desire, then a strong will, until the act occurs.

Lowering the gaze has tremendous benefits, among them: freeing the heart from sorrow, bestowing upon it light and radiance, soundness of insight, opening the doors of knowledge, and strengthening the heart and its courage, in addition to the joy and happiness the heart finds when lowering the gaze, and freeing the heart from the captivity of lust.

One must strive to lower the gaze, avoid places of ostentatious display (tabarruj), make sincere repentance, and beware of Satan.