Is there a Hadith with the wording: "The best of you is he who starts with a female then follows her with a male"?

The aforementioned hadith is weak or fabricated and was not transmitted with the wording indicated. It was mentioned in "Kashf al-Khafa'" with the wording: "Among the blessings of a woman is her early delivery of females; have you not heard His, the Almighty's, saying: 'He bestows females upon whom He wills, and He bestows males upon whom He wills.' So He began with females," and with the wording: "Among the blessings of a woman upon her husband is the ease of her dowry and her early delivery of females." Both are weak, and Al-Albani said about them: fabricated.